As a psychoanalyst, I am only too aware of the dangers inherent in indulging in long-distance diagnistic speculation about a person one has never met. Yet, I could not help but note, shortly after Barack Obama’s keynote address at the 2004 Democratic Convention, that the title of his first book was "Dreams From My Father", a man he’d met only once, at the age of ten, after the separation of his parents when Obama was two years old. Even then, I was struck with the fact that Barack Obama, like so many children whose parents are divorced, are more fascinated and eager to win approval from the less accessible parent than they are by the parent who is present and responsible for the child’s welfare on a daily basis. The child’s fantasy is that, if he or she could just be wonderful enough, they could win the love and respect that would ensure the continued presence of the absent parent in their life.
In a CNN interview aired on Dec. 24th, Obama reflected that, when his father left again, after the only visit that he’d had with his son since his son was two years old, he did not long for his father to stay on; rather, he was almost relieved when Obama, Sr. left, feeling his presence as something of an intrusion. Yet, Obama’s book was not entitled, "Dreams From My Mother", or from the grandparents who were greatly involved in his upbringing. His father was obviously a larger-than-life, highly romanticized figure for him.
I bring this up at this point because it seems clear to me that Barack Obama has a "pastor problem", and that this may well be related to the longing for a powerful, opinionated and, ultimately approving father, who sees his son as special, and supports him unconditionally. Pastors are, after all, the "fathers" of their flock, and their role is to do just that. Obama’s choices of the Rev. Jeremiah Wright, his long-term former Pastor, and his current choice of the Rev. Rick Warren, both controversial figures who stand for issues that Obama stands against, to be his spiritual representatives, really only make sense in this context. It can be said, and has been suggested, that Obama is making good on his promise to bring dissenting voices into his administration but, let’s face it, dissenting voices cannot include bigots and misogynists, I feel sure that Obama would not invite a David Duke or a Rush Limbaugh to play a part in his administration or represent him in any way. Yet, Rick Warren, who has stated that those who defend abortion, but say that it should be rare, are like those who would say about the Holocaust, "Well, maybe we could save 20% of the Jewish people in Poland and Germany, and we should be satisfied with that…I’m not satisfied with it. I want the Holocaust ended", and who, on the eve of the 2004 Presidential election, sent a letter to his congregation, telling them that there were five non-negotiable issues that should determine their vote: abortion, stem cell research, cloning, homosexual marriage, and euthenasia, is invited to give the invocation at Obama’s innauguration.
Obama’s father is described by Kenyan journalist Philip Ochieng as a difficult person, who had srious drinking problems. He lost both of his legs in a first automobile collision, and was killed in a second one at the age of 46. He may have, in fact, been a tragic figure, a man of promise and great charisma who, essentially, self-destructed, but it is clear that he could not, or would not be present for his son.
If Obama is searching for a powerful male charismatic figure, it is something that he needs to understand, for the sake of the American people. There are many powerful "fathers" to be courted in the worlds of religion and politics, and many of them are far from benign.





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Maybe you would call me too trusting, even naive, but I’m not inclined to analyze these things endlessly, obsessively.
I do not doubt Barack Obama missed something in his early life by having endured the loss of a runaway father.
Nevertheless, Obama seems to me an emotionally healthy, strong spirited human being with a thoroughly adequate mental center of gravity.
I would point to his close, joyous and attentive parenting of his own children, as well as his obviously close and loving bond with Michele, undoubtedly a strong personality herself, as more likely signs of how he has coped as an adult with any deficiencies in his childhood experience, rather than bothering to work myself up into an overheated fit of pastor passionplay.
ymmv ianapsychiatrist
forgive me for i know not what i do.
nevertheless, i sense an upcoming book tour on the wind, not that there’s anything wrong with that.
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signed, Adie, MS, published
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Thanks, egregious. Got it!
are more fascinated and eager to *sin* approval from the less accessible parent
Paging Dr. Freud. Dr. Freud, please pick up the white courtesy phone…
;)
omg. it’s back.
Make fun, not freud. Puleeze give the guy a chance.
yew had that pamphlet scritched out in longhand months ago, right?
So let’s have fun.
Paging Dr. Phil. Red courtesy phone.
couldn’t get a proper pagan tree this year.
haven’t gotten trim on mantle yet, since we’re delaying our celebriation until we’re all able to be here together.
penance? whu? i’m gittin’ too old for this.
judge not yet ye be judged.
Judge Judy? That’s the ticket!
i shall go sit in the corner at my desk and fold my hands in a proper manner.
“as a…. only too aware…” gotta luv the effort.
No offense meant to Obama, though I’d be really curious to know why other readers think he has made the choice of Rick Warren to give the invocation at the inauguration. I would hate to think that it was political expediency, and don’t even understand why it would be more expedient to court anti-gay and anti-choice groups than it is to support the women and gays who supported him. And the choice of someone who is both openly misogynistic and homophobic seems to be stretching diversity a bit, unless one wants to get a twofer. And, no, no book or book tour even thought about. Just trying to understand.
Thanks for the to and fro. He’s a fascinating fellow. As an ethologist, though, I hesitate to loop my way out too far on the branches of his childhood. Even orangutans fall once in awhile doing that. I prefer to watch.
Different personalities can have very different reactions to experiencing similar stresses and types of support during childhood. Don’t you think? Sounds to me like true, loving care from his grandparents. Probably also some good role models and mentors as various teachers recognized a talented youngster and tried to give him their best to help him on his way. Punahou has a very good reputation, for good reason as I understand it. Another opportunity for good influences. Harvard ain’t too shabby either. Michelle: another strong influence, I’m guessing for the betterment of the whole team.
The above is largely conjecture on my part. So it rolls around in my noggin, but I still wait to see what he will attempt to achieve in office.
Frankly, to me the choice of person to give the invocation pales in comparison to that of Secretary of State, et al. Maybe it is a mere nod of gratitude without much other consequence. I don’t see the harm.
Finally, I don’t put terribly much stock in any of my own casual musings, for that’s just what they are. We need to show some patience and respect, and not expect to stuff Obama in a box of our choosing. He just won’t fit, I’m a-thinkin’. To me, he sounds strong, serious, and resolute, careful and measured in his plans, marvelously good-tempered and gentle, patient, and absolutely driven to make a difference for the better in our world. He wasn’t originally my first choice, but I’m behind him 100% now, and I’m excited about the possibilities for positive change during his service as President.
I’m not writing a book on him either, but then, I’m less likely to consider the thought than you, perhaps. I’m lucky if I write a decent letter to the editor of our local paper once in awhile.
P. E. A. C. E.