As usual, David woke up before I did. Once I was up, he was in the living room, as usual, reading the paper, then typing away on his computer. I fired up my laptop from the sofa to read the news. Our two chihuahuas sat next to me, licking, nuzzling, chewing a toy and occasionally mugging for attention.
It was a good half hour later when I went down to my office in the basement to get something. The dozen roses with a big "I love you" helium filled balloon were all in a vase on my desk. I opened the card, brought the flowers upstairs and gave him a kiss.
David went back to working on his computer. He’s starting a blog, go figure. Around noon time he went out for food and I went to the local market to pick up a couple of large lobsters. Saturdays are my night to cook; David plays tennis in the afternoon and gets home around 7:45, so I cook while he’s out. I got some green beans to go with the lobsters, some wine, butter, lemons, and some stuff to put in the bottom of the lobster pot for flavoring: onion, cut celery, some branches of fresh thyme, and pulled some bay leaves out of the pantry.
When his car pulled in up front from tennis I got the pot steaming hot, so he’d have time to shower before dinner. By the time he came downstairs from his shower, I’d set the table and set the "be my valentine!" card I’d gotten for him at his place. We’re chihuahua owners, which means we’re a little ridiculous: both our cards had chihuahuas on them.
Dinner was great, lots of food, the lobster meat was just right and succulent. Messy eating, it’s true, and while the dogs don’t get people food, they liked licking our fingers. I had a heart shaped chocolate brownie cake for us for dessert with some roses in the icing from a local store.
Saturday nights we usually watch a movie from Netflix, something on the DVR like an episode of The Office or Lost, or whatever. We’re Midsomer Murders fans, and we had a video we’d not yet seen, so we popped it in and watched it. By the time it was over it was time for bed.
Steady, quiet love. Valentine’s Day, for us, was just a seamless kind of day, part of the rhythm of our lives. No big surprises, just the kind of little ones we always have as part of our little routines. Six plus years and we still make each other laugh. Six plus years, we’re very lucky, very in love, and neither afraid to admit it nor compelled to make a big fuss about it.
Every day is Valentine’s Day.
I’m the luckiest man alive.





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Happy Valentine’s Day Pach and David.
We had a quiet one also, but I’m jealous hearing of all the folks who had lobster. Still, we had a nice pie. And the feeling of knowing you are loved by someone is priceless. eh? ;->
Hi, Adie, and thanks.
Yeah, still pricey, but better to make them at home than order them at a restaurant.
Glad you had a good day, too.
I have no valentine but I shared your joy pach, thanx
heh heh, I’m a pro. The way I eat lobster… well, no one would want to sit anywhere near me in public. Grew up on the northeast coast, and I do know miss it somethin’ powerful.
P.E.A.C.E. to you and yours, Pach.
A lot of the love thing is, as I say, pure luck. Some people want to be single, which is perfectly great. Choices, choices! Valentine’s Day is a fakey kind of marketing holiday anyway. But in my case, it just gave me an excuse to make a little note about a good thing going.
But we can’t get married. Not legally. And I end up paying an insane amount of money for health insurance as a small business owner, since I can’t get partner benefits from my better half’s coverage.
NEITHER JUST NOR FAIR!
We, along with you, hope for change.
What a wonderful day!
Thanks for sharing your story with us, Pach.
I bought some purple iris and red tulips from our favorite vendor in the neighborhood and then cooked pasta for dinner. My fiance arrived home from work with more crazy stories. We watched Juno, then Alec Baldwin on SNL. Tried to figure out the appeal of the Jonas Brothers, and failed yet again.
Then to bed, unmarried but very happy after eight+ years
Pach, thank you for sharing. Love is what makes the world go round – I’ve never understood those who legislate against love.
Sounds like you had a terrific Valentine’s Day with your man and your cute little doggies! Wonderful. ;-)
That’s how me and patricia are .. every minute is valentine’s day .. boy there ain’t nothin like the true absolute ms. right found in middle age
Thx Pach, really nice to read, glad for your contentment
(Then again, I’ve had some fine contentment just by myself .. funny, a big reason patricia and I fit so well is what loners we are, we understand it perfectly in each other and make the space)
What a nice day you had Pach…we did too! We renewed our wedding vows along with other couples at the 4:00 pm Mass on Saturday..Fr. Ron asked how long each were married…25 year, 30, 40, etc…(We will be 45 yrs in August, but we are still together and still in love!!) The longest wed
at the Mass was 64 years…pretty good…
I almost had lobster myself. They had them at the local market for $5.99 a pound…bet you probably paid double or more for yours. I am like KaylnMaine and I live near Boston…we can get them right off the boat if we are there on time!! Jealous are you???? Instead of the red lobster, we ended up going out with my sister who has recently separated from her husband and we didn’t want her alone for Valentine’s Day!! We went
Chinese as she wanted that!!
So, like you, we also had a very nice and lots of quiet talk and keeping
a lonely lady happy for the evening!!
Thanks again for your story! And Belated Happy Valentine’s Day to you
and David!!
Maureen
Hey, Pach. Glad to hear you had a nice day and are having a nice life.
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Good luck to you and David.
(Your note on your father’s passing is still in my thoughts–what a loving tribute.)
Yesterday I put on an old sweatshirt of his for the first time since he died. He’d handed it off to me a few years ago when I was visiting and needed one.
I’d been reluctant to put it on, but I felt like he was telling me, go ahead, it’s time. Still lookin’ out for me.
oh Pach, don’t know what was better in your youtube; puppy frolic or Papa’s laugh
caught a bit of the “little ridiculous” yesterday at a biker hangout – a rather large, gruff ‘1 %er’ (kinda deadenders in bikerworld)smooching on his little ‘April’ and begging her for more